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New Year, New You? ….Really?

Feeling a bit weighed down? Things didn’t go the way you intended last month? Does your “New Years Resolutions” have you feeling a bit depressed?

Well, snap out of it!

Over the past few weeks, I have received many inquiries about resolutions, goal planning, and of course; the hardest month of the year- JANUARY.

New Year’s Resolutions (January) becomes the hardest month of the year for some people, because they often commit to actions they haven’t prepared for. I like to call them ‘actions’ because they require you to do things that you wouldn’t normally do. Just to be clear, these are really good actions. However, they have no substance behind them. There is nothing in place encouraging you to do ‘that thing’ you said you would. There is nothing helping you carry-on with those actions.

But let’s take a step back and discuss the concept of a New Years Resolution….

For some of you who may not know, this tradition started long ago before any of you were born. That’s right! In Medieval times, Knights took peacock vows for chivalry. Babylonians made promises to pay their debts, and Romans made promises to Janus. It wasn’t until the Great Depression that Americans started to take the New Years Resolution theory seriously among their society. These resolutions are indeed helpful for those who have intuitively thought about their goals/habits and vowed to make prominent changes in their lives. However, it still becomes an unnecessary stress factor to others who are simply ‘making a toast’ among friends. Sure, these are things you would like to change/improve; but it’s possible that you’re just simply not ready for the commitment.

This is absolutely okay. You have nothing to be ashamed of. But, if these are really changes that you want to make in your life, why not be more specific? For example:

“I want to lose 75 pounds this year by exercising regularly, and incorporating a healthier diet.”

This statement is good, but it has so much room for potential. You can be more specific with this goal; which will in return allow you to be more successful. For instance:

  • How many pounds would you like to lose per month/week?
  • How often will you exercise per week?
  • What changes do you need to make in your diet? How much do you weigh now? (i.e. is losing 75 pounds feasible in your current lifestyle?)
  • Will you get a gym membership, or will you take brisk walks or runs; and take advantage of floor exercises or equipment you already have around the house?
  • How will you track your progress?
  • Are you prepared to spend the extra money on healthier foods?

Simple questions like the ones above will alleviate undue stress and give you confidence to make a suitable plan that you can respect; and abide by. You have plenty of time to work on your New Years Resolution, so don’t feel discouraged. Take a deep breath, decide what you want to do- then go for it. Don’t give up. Just make smaller goals that lead to big achievements.

But let’s get more personal…

“This year, I choose to avoid negative people and situations!”

Hmmm….

Questions to consider:

  • Who are ‘negative’ people?
  • What are ‘negative’ situations?
  • Have you done something to contribute to the negativity? (be honest)
  • Have you been fair?
  • Have you given closure to the people and/or situations involving this negativity?
  • How can you improve your relationships?
  • Have you taken ownership of your actions?
  • Are you writing people off because you’re ‘too good’ for them? Or, is it because they require you to respect them?

I’m not trying to play “Devil’s Advocate”. I’m just simply challenging you to be more honest about your relationships and the situations you encounter. Often, relationships and situations have a ‘past’. They didn’t just appear and cause the negativity in your life. However, over time there has been progression. Sometimes, people become negative when they are pushed too far. And, in return we push them further by assuming that they’re the problem. (and vise versa)

Before you end relationships, or miss out on special moments; be sure to think things through. Regret is a terrible thing to cope with. Don’t use your New Year’s Resolution as an excuse to be stubborn.

On another note….

If you truly have Assholes or trivial situations in your life…Get rid of them. Sometimes, waving from a distance is better than stopping to say “Hello”.

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Saturday Night Snack

So I was preparing for bed last night, and this is what I gathered to take with me. (see above pic) While most people may take a cup of tea, or their favorite midnight snack, I opted to take all the necessary gadgets that I thought I may need throughout the night.

I must admit that at first I felt sad that this was what my Saturday nights have consisted of lately. But, then I felt a sense of empowerment because I was actually excited about finishing up some things I had started earlier in the day. I was simply moving to a more comfortable space.

Strangely enough, I don’t like working in bed. Things get lost between the sheets, there’s a constant need to get up to get-more things, and I tend to get distracted more so at night when I’m working. For example, when I’m ready to post a blog, I may get distracted by a tab that I had opened earlier- then suddenly I’m on Saks.com shopping for heels. Blog? Forgotten about for the next 30 minutes.

While I sometimes become frustrated with the amount of time I spend working, I have to admit that it has become my way of life. Moreover, I think I like it, and it’s time to own up to it. I like staying up at odd hours of the night working on projects and responding to pesky notifications. I enjoy writing while watching my favorite reality TV show. Sitting up in bed with my Laptop and a glass of wine on the nightstand is actually soothing. Though I may be distracted, I’m still somewhat productive.

I guess this would be a great time to point out the fact that as long as you’re happy with what you’re doing….go for it! Too often do we look on social media and suddenly find ourselves feeling depressed and weird because we’re not out at a party like ‘those ladies in the picture’. And, just because you’re not on a romantic vacation in Italy “like that one couple”, doesn’t mean you don’t have ‘romance’ in your life. Learn to be happy for others without feeling sorry for yourself.

I’m sitting in bed, with my wine, laptop, and cell phone. I’m also catching up on “The Real Housewives of Atlanta”. My phone is not ringing; which is good.  I have popcorn and nuts on stand-by just in case I get hungry. The air-condition has cooled the house just right. And…at this moment I don’t have to ‘tinkle’; which means I’ll be comfy in my spot for at least an hour or two.

In short…I’m happy.

 

~Gina

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Keep Going!

Ooooh wee! After all of the late nights, hundreds of emails, and many moments of frustration, I can finally say that the Sexy Singular Launch Weekend is booked! Proposals and contracts have been signed and we are ready to go! Of course, the work is never ending as we still have numerous details to perfect. But, we are moving right along and I’m super excited.

The past few weeks have been so stressful. When you’re a perfectionist like me, you tend to go a bit overboard. Everything just has to be perfect…

Aside from the business aspect, I also had a few personal challenges. I have grown, others have changed, and life is somewhat different. I was exercising today and became so emotional about the past, but ever ready for the future. Regardless of our situations, we have to remember to find the joy in the moment. When you turn your dreams into a reality, it often causes anxiety and mixed emotions: an internal confusion that not even you can understand or explain to others.

In short, I guess the only thing you have to do is remember to keep going. The people who are supposed to be there at the end of the day; will be there. The people who are supposed to cheer you on; will do so- They will be there. Friends will come and go, but luckily it is a known fact that we often find that we have everything (and everyone) we need once we reach our destination. If you feel like the value in you is ever overlooked, there is no need to worry. Remember that not everyone has had the privilege of seeing a shooting star when it passes by. Nevertheless, there are others who are actually gazing upon it at that very moment.

You are that star! Your light is bright and the opportunity to experience your beauty is rare. People are looking up to you to see what you will do next; and you dare not disappoint. You are always an inspiration to someone. Never let your situations, people, or failures make you feel that you are not good enough. As you keep excelling, the opinions of others will seem to matter less, and the need to be told: “I’m proud of you” -will no longer be necessary.  Confidence is all you need.

Keep your stature tight and your armor in tip top shape. You have places to go, things to do, and people to see- and the Sexy Singular lady always looks her best!

Anyway, as you can tell, I’ve been through something. It’s fairly over now, but I wanted to share with you what I told myself when I was feeling blue: Keep going! You’ll be just fine. I promise.

 

~Gina

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Work Place Woes

When the people at work are mean to you, ignore you, give you those looks from across the cubicle; then it’s time to cut your losses and realize that they just don’t like you. So What! It’s not the end of the world, you aren’t there to make lifelong besties.

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